Hey, kiddies! Dan Savage got a marriage license!!! But not to marry Terry, his partner of 10-years and co-father (someone please let me know if that's an offensive term) of their son, DJ. Check it out...
The clerk called over her manager, a nice older white man, who explained that Amy and Sonia couldn't have a marriage license. So I asked if Amy and I could have one--even though I'm gay and live with my boyfriend, and Amy's a lesbian and lives with her girlfriend. We emphasized to the clerk and her manager that Amy and I don't live together, we don't love each other, we don't plan to have kids together, and we're going to go on living and sleeping with our same-sex partners after we get married. So could we still get a marriage license?Do politicians see absolutely no irony in this? That two people who don't love each other, don't plan on ever consummating the union, have no intention of living together, and - GASP!! - aren't going to bear children together, can get married so long as they pony up their $54.00 marriage licensing fee and sign some paperwork? But two people in a loving, committed relationship cannot do the same because of a few body parts?"Sure," the license-department manager said, "If you've got $54, you can have a marriage license."
In the simlpest terms, a FAKE marriage is perfectly okay, so long as it's between a man and a woman. A REAL marriage is NOT okay if it's between people of the same sex.
I hope in 20 years, this country looks back and just shakes its collective at itself for even considering this to be an issue. If anyone is putting the "sanctity of marriage" at risk, it's all the damn heteros who enter marriage lightly knowing they can get divorced at any time. And the ones who abuse their spouses. And the ones who repeatedly cheat and lie. Not a bunch of people who have to fight tooth and nail for even the smallest glimmer of hope.
Anyway, we're happy there's finally been some action. And I'm happy to have a "marriage license." It's not the marriage license I'd like to have, of course. But, still, let me count my blessings: I have a 10-year relationship (but not the marriage license), a house (but not the marriage license), a kid (but not the marriage license), and my boyfriend's credit-card bills (but not the marriage license). I don't know what a guy has to do around here to get the marriage license. But I guess it's some consolation that I can get a meaningless one anytime I like, just so long as I bring along a woman I don't love and my $54.
Disgusting, just disgusting.
SP'd this article from Erica
Posted by beenie at March 17, 2004 09:22 AM